I'm blaming this post on Diet Wild Cherry Pepsi. Have you had it? I'm normally strictly a Diet Dr. P kinda gal, but its been a nice change... anyway, this post needs to have some blame placed somewhere, so I'm putting in on my beverage...
totally logical, right?
(that or maybe I've been watching too much Grey's Anatomy *admitted sheepishly* and her frank narration throughout the show has got me "on one" and I'm rambling here on the blog)
Anyway. Some thoughts.
I have been feeling inadequate lately, more so than usual.
Even admitting to drinking a caffeinated beverage *gasp* has got me second guessing myself about posting it. "what will the others think?"
I'm tired of these feelings of inadequacy. Lately I feel as though they have been keeping me from being...me. I miss "me." I want all of my new Pittsburgh friends to get to know "me."
I have been thinking about the old me from high school. How in the world was I so care free? I remember that one of my goals in high school was to smile at everyone (and try and get them to smile in return), no matter how silly I felt doing it. In choir we had talent days, where we were forced required to preform a piece once a term as part of our grade. I can remember how I would just sit and smile at the performer, waiting for them to make eye contact with me... sounds a little creepy typing that out, but every time I made eye contact with the person preforming, they'd smile back and I felt like it helped them to not be so nervous (of course, that could all totally be in my head).
I was care free and FUN!
I was so much fun! I feel like I'm living in El Lame-o land right now.
A part of me tries to convince myself that I'm a different person, that I'm a mom and I can't be that care-free, fun person that I once was.
Why can't I?
I'm sure my girls would love it!
Would it be balanced? Could I still discipline my kids if I was the "old me"?
I don't know. I guess that is the mental debate I've been having.
Here is what I do know.
I need to be happier.
I know Ryan and my girls would both enjoy that more.
The old me was happy, all the time. I want the current and future me to be happy all the time too.
So, here is how I'm going to do it.
I'm going to be a little more carefree in my life.
Doesn't make sense? Let me elaborate.
I compare myself. As hard as I try not to I do. So, I'm resolved to stop caring about whether or not my house is as clean and organized as another's. Not saying I'm going to give up and let my house go to trash. But if I have kids over, and the house is a wreck, who cares. I LIVE in my house. One day my kids are going to move out and I will actually MISS having the mess around. So why not enjoy it a little!
Also, I'm not going to care about my image. I still need to work on things (like my constant battle with weight loss) but in High School I was never skinny. Never. But I didn't care. I figured everyone needs to be loved and I shouldn't let my poor self image get in the way of that. And you know what? I made the most friends during that time in my life. If you're happy and loving you make friends... go figure.
So to recap... here are some of my resolutions:
Don't worry about keeping up appearances.
Don't let your self image get in the way.
Just BE HAPPY!
Hmm... sounds like a song... Don't worry, be happy.
It also sounds like a recipe for disaster, but I promise, I haven't let those caffeinated beverages throw me too far off the edge.